First of all, teaser picture! This is the one I Instagrammed first, by the way, follow me @liztrom. Shameless promos, yeah!
A very dramatic side view of my costume.
And last, but not least, there's little ol' me.
Anyway, I'm getting sidetracked, but I just love getting into my costumes. And now we get to look forward to Thanksgiving AND Christmas!! AND EGG NOG!! Yay egg nog!!
Literally me like every year.
Ugh, I keep doing it, okay Liz, stay focused! No more gushing about upcoming holidays, that will come later...in other posts... :3
So, some of you may have clicked on this post thinking, "Who in the world is Garth Flint?" Truthfully, I don't really know either, my teacher told us a story in class about a guy with this name and I was thinking, "Oh that would make such a cool title!" (Sorry Brother Williams, I listen to your discussions I SWEAR! I just like making my blog cool...). So nonetheless, watch out for Garth Flint, I mean even if that's his real name. You never know, I could have totally butchered the name because I wasn't paying close enough attention. I wouldn't put it past myself...but from what I vaguely remember, I think it did have to do with our discussion about infidelity today. Which reminds me, so this week we discussed all things regarding physical intimacy and infidelity. I'm not gonna lie, it was a very interesting discussion because a lot of Mormon people just don't talk about that subject very much which I think is very sad because Mormon children grow up thinking sex is bad and it sends the wrong message. What usually happens is we are taught all our lives that we shouldn't have sex with anyone but our spouse and so the message is no, no, no, no, NO! and then we get married and all of a sudden it's yes? WHAT. I mean I'm not married yet and so I haven't been through this, but I imagine that when the time comes, it'll be a little weird to think I can basically share this experience with my spouse whenever. I mean, I think I have a somewhat basic knowledge about the whole ordeal because my parents have shared things with me when I've had questions and obviously I've learned things from all the Einsteins at school, plus time in human development classes, so I think I won't be TOO freaked out on my wedding night.
But seriously, why are parents so afraid of teaching their children about sex? I mean we all grow up and develop those feelings for other people and most of us end up having sex so what's the problem? Sure it might be awkward to have "the talk", but would you rather them get good information from you or the kids at school? Personally I'd rather my children learn about it from me because I'll be able to give them information according to their age and they won't have to hear about all the sick nasty stuff a lot of people do in the world. I've been reading the book Between Husband and Wife: Gospel Perspectives on Marital Intimacy for another class and yes, I know I'm not married yet, but I would have to say this is an excellent book with great information. If anyone has questions about this topic, I would highly recommend checking it out. Also, if you're at the stage when you're thinking about having the sex talk with your children, I'd look into A Parent's Guide on LDS.org because it's a great resource for how and when to tell children about sex because you can actually start at a young age by explaining how their bodies work. And even though these are written by Mormon people, we're all still humans and I think this would be great information for everyone!
And speaking of sex, infidelity is something that really isn't good for a marriage. And you may be thinking infidelity can only be physical stuff, you'd be wrong. You can be unfaithful to your spouse just by thinking about someone else! There are a few stages of infidelity that we learned about and the first is fantasies or thoughts. These can be dangerous because a murderer wouldn't just go out and kill someone first right? They'd think about it or get angry, and then do it. Everything we do begins with our thoughts. This can even be stuff like having a favorite actor and going back to pictures of them and fantasizing with this person. That really isn't fair to your spouse because you might start to build unrealistic expectations in your head that your spouse can't live up to, like porn. THAT IS NOT REAL LIFE PEOPLE. Some other forms of infidelity are visual such as literature, music, etc. and having romantic affairs or emotional connections with people. I think these can actually be more harmful than just having sex with someone because sure, you've developed that physical bond with them, but in an emotional relationship, you're sharing deep feelings with another person that allows them to get closer to you. This can be really dangerous with social media because people start to reconnect with old flames and get lost in the old days. I know sometimes it doesn't seem like you're trying to be unfaithful to your spouse, but if you're thinking about other people besides them, you are I'm sorry to say.
So basically, be faithful to your spouse. You know, most people who have fidelity problems in their marriages actually end up staying together and they find their marriage is stronger because they've been able to work through something difficult together. I hope none of you ever have to go through this, but don't put yourself into positions where it could be a temptation. It's really not worth it.
I hope you all have a good weekend and I just want to take this time to thank everyone who's read my blog and written comments. It really helps to know people actually read what I have to say!
Love,
Liz
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