Gender and All That

Hello everyone! Happy 3rd week of October! I can't believe it's already halfway through the month, time really goes by when you're having fun...mmm...nope, that's a lie. It goes by no matter what you do and even though you try and wisely use every hour of the day you find yourself falling behind you're like stop time stop...but I'm not speaking from personal experience or anything...

So this week in class, we talked about a HUGE topic in the media right now and by the title of this post, I think by now you know I'm going to talk about gender, but more specifically, gender roles and such.

Now, first I'd like to say don't get your panties in a wad, you all are free to have your own opinions of what gender means, but this is mine. So at the start of class,  we started out by discussing a quote by G. Steinham: "We badly need to raise our sons more like our daughters". Um, excuse me? Yes I understand women have been oppressed in the past, seriously as a female I say "go, fight, win" to all my fellow females, but really? Why do we need to turn men into women? I believe they are men for a reason because 1) their divine nature  2) they're physical bodies 3) why do we need more women in the world? Personally, I like being around guys better because women can drive me up the wall! It's like yes we know we have this need to connect, but seriously, can ya give a girl 5 minutes to herself without peppering her with all the questions like "OMG you look so cute today, where'd you get all your clothes" "how was your day?" Yes, thank you for the compliments and asking about my day, but I don't really feel like talking right now so I'll just go in my room now. Like do girls just not pick up on body language as fast as everyone thinks they do? I mean not speaking from personal experience or anything, but sometimes girls are annoying.

This is actually one of the things we discussed in class this week. So in the girl mind, whenever people don't talk, this means they're upset and guys are just enjoying the silence. Personally, I'm with the guys, I like quiet car rides home and just being quiet in general and when people feel the need to talk the whole time, it kind of gets on my nerves. I told this to my coworker and he was like "You'd be perfect for any guy, seriously, we don't need to talk all the time!"

But I think the differences between guys and girls are awesome and we shouldn't try and mesh ourselves together because we need each other. We also discussed how female and male babies are treated differently: females tend to be coddled and boys are kind of left on their own, but I think this is really important because as the providers, presiders, and protectors, they need to know how to take care of business and not get emotional all the time. And I'm not gonna lie, sometimes it is nice to have a stronger person around to open the pickle jar or lift something because why would I strain myself when you can do it with no problems? I mean believe me, it's taken me a while to get to this point, but I'm glad I did because now I can have my pickles and you feel like a man. Win win.

While I do have all sorts of girly tendencies and I still think I think like a girl like according to what I said above, I think I was a little more coddled when I was little, though I would also say I kind of have a few masculine ways of doing things. It's funny because I think this is the reason it's hard for me to live with roommates because they want to connect and talk and I'm like eh, I'll be in my room thanks. I have a friend who calls me the "man in our relationship" because she'll ask me about something I give one word answers and I can tell she thinks that's not good enough. I'm sorry to all my females friends, but I've been like that since I was little. My mom says I was the one who asked for fire trucks and dinosaurs even though I still had dolls and Barbies growing up. I think I was coddled a little more than my sister though because I had asthma growing up and so when dad was teaching everyone how to do yard work, I never got to learn because mom didn't want me to start having breathing problems. Thanks mom. But even though I'm quieter, I still think my divine role is to be a mother and I wouldn't trade being a woman, though I could do without the monthly visit from dear old aunt Flo.

Which brings me to something else we discussed: transgender. Now, I don't want to judge anybody too hard, but I just don't think this is right. It really bugs me when people think they can change their gender and then act like they know the struggle. Um, no, you have no idea what it's like to be a woman. Take Bruce Jenner for example, oh excuse me, Caitlyn. It really bugs me when this guy changed himself into a "woman" and then parades around acting like he knows what it's like. You have NO CLUE what it's like to be a woman and it just really bugs me because people are trying to mess with something that has been decreed before our earth life. Gender is an essential characteristic of who we are because we all have different things we were put on earth to accomplish ( https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng )Women are here to give birth to children and give them physical bodies, while men are to provide the spiritual salvation by having the priesthood and giving blessings. Even though we are different, we complete each other and we need each other. In the Bible, it says that Eve was a "help meet" for Adam, but when you look up meet in the Bible Dictionary, meet means something fitting, proper, qualified, and suitable (https://www.lds.org/scriptures/bd/meet?lang=eng&letter=m ). Eve wasn't lower than Adam, she was on his level because she completed him. Men can do a lot of things on their own, but without women, they can't progress and it would be kind of a waste to be on earth.

So all in all, we are male and female for a reason. It is who we are, who we were, and who we will be. It can't be changed and we are all equal in the eyes of the Lord.

Thanks for reading, hopefully you all aren't too offended, and I'll see you next week!